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10/07/06

Why I Love My Son's Adoptive Mom

Posted by : Coley S. in Open Adoption Blog at 08:56 pm , 311 words, 107 views
Categories: Emotions, Coley's Personal Story

Inspired by the posts by Dr. G and other bloggers about focusing on the positive or negative aspects of adoption, I felt like posting something positive today.

So, I give you reasons I love Charlie's adoptive Mom.

She doesn’t judge me. She’s never judged the fact that I’ve made mistakes and that I have a past. She’s never held it against me or made me feel bad about it.

She’s not intimidated by my relationship or connection to Charlie. She knows that she is his Mom and that I am his Birthmom and that we are both needed in his life and we each have different roles and different things we can give and teach him.

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She loves me not just because I am Charlie’s birthmother, but as a person too. Every conversation doesn’t totally have to revolve around Charlie anymore. She and I have become friends too.

She understands that there are times that I may feel sad and she just lets me be sad. She knows there are times I will be sad and that it is healthy for me to feel sad at certain times. She doesn’t take offense to those moments or try and cheer me up, she just lets me be and deal with it in my own time.

She has welcomed me and my family into her extended family. Not only does she welcome me into Charlie’s life but she has welcomed my family (my parents, my brother) into his life as well and has encouraged relationships between Charlie and other members of my family.

She calls me about the little things. She has always called me when Charlie had his “firsts” like first tooth, first word, etc. She even called me right after she dropped him off for the first day school!

To be continued......

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Comment from: Heather [Member]

Coley - I loved this post. I think you BOTH sound like pretty special people!

Permalink 10/07/06 @ 21:17

Comment from: vivianjean [Member]

Great post!

Permalink 10/08/06 @ 05:41

Comment from: Dr. G [Member]

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this is a great post, Coley! as an adoptive mother, i would be so honored to have my girls' other mom be able to say any half of these things about me. unless and until that happens, i will strive to be the type of mother for our girls in the hopes that she will have things to love about me one day...

Permalink 10/08/06 @ 17:31

Comment from: Angee [Member]

I am Charlie's adoptive mom of Coley's birthson. I am truly thankful for God having placed Coley in our lives. Not only did I recieve our beautiful little boy, but I also recieved Coley, J. and N. her immidiate family as well as her extended family. My parent also love and welcome them. This is a true testiment of how God intends Love to work!

Permalink 10/24/06 @ 17:36

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