How badly do some people wish to adopt? Would some go so far as to ignore good, ethically sound judgement, just turn a deaf ear to injustices done to biological families in order to accept and keep a child in their home? What kind of family would Do something so cruel and immoral, all in the name of getting what they want (the child)?

Apparently these kind of families are in the major headlines of the news everyday, although often we never hear their names, only those who have been victimized by their poor judgement. Recent news has told us about the case of Allison Quets, who wanted her twins returned just an hour after she had signed for the adoption, while suffering from severe malnourishment, duress, and exhaustion. Then there is the case of young Stephanie Bennett, a minor who was coerced to run away from home in order to get her to turn over her five month old daughter over for adoption purposes. The most recent case, that I personally have blogged about, Gary and Cynthia Stocklaufer, who were trying to legally adopt their infant cousin and had him ruthlessly removed because the court deemed Gary to FAT to adopt. These children all reside with adoptive families now, people who saw what was going on, and for whatever reason chose to ignore the warning signs, and there by become part of the problem.

I admit all these stories had me really wondering what kind of adoptive family would truly accept a child under such circumstances, and proceed with an adoption? When they hear all the things that would have left most of us knowing something is not kosher, why didn’t they do the right thing? These are some mighty desperate and unethical people in my opinion. Unless they are living in a cave, it would be nearly impossible to ignore the media, and the heart rending stories of the families who have been ripped apart to supply them with their child. Honestly how do they rest easy at night, or ever?

I could not do that, I could not, and yet I still believe in adoption and that is can be a good thing. I believe that people should approach accepting the child they do with care, and with every effort made to ensure a legal and ethical placement. I believe people should really, seriously explore openness in adoption, and what ever they can do to honor and preserve the history of that child. I wonder why all people do not seem to agree. I am confused about how some people could completely ignore how they are playing a part in such a travesty against the tiniest and most innocent among us. At the same time, I am not surprised.

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