In my last post, I shared about how I have been missing Charlie more so than usual lately. I’m not a patient person and the wait time in between visits can sometimes seem like forever. So, what should you do when that wait time seems like ions?

I’m sure each birthmother is different as to what helps her cope in between visits but here’s what I do to try and get through that time:
1. I initiate more contact in other ways such as phone or mail. As of lately, I have been sending Charlie more cards than I typically do just because that is what is helping me.
2. I write more letters in my “letters to Charlie” file. I have a few letters in a file on my computer saved for Charlie to maybe read when he is one day older – this is more of a recent thing I have started doing – but I have been writing more letters in there lately. It seems to be helping.
3. Sometimes looking at pictures and reliving the memories we have shared helps while other times it just makes me sad and breakdown in tears. However, I do believe that tears can be cleansing for the soul so sometimes I just let myself have a little pity party and a good cry.
4. Another thing that helps me cope with the in between visit time is to know when my next visit is. I’ve noticed that it’s harder for me and I have a worse time coping if the next visit is indefinite. But, if I have so-and-so date in mind for a visit, I have a much easier time dealing. Even if it’s not an exact date but the 3rd week in November, I can typically still cope better than with the next visit date being open ended.

So, what helps you cope during that long in between visit wait?

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