Continued from Part 1

Although you may be sad about the move and feel many different emotions, it’s important to remember that the child is the most important person in this whole situation, so making him or her feel secure with the changes that are about to come about is of the utmost importance.

How can you make your child feel loved and still be a part of his or her life while living miles and miles away?

• Depending on your child’s age, talk to him or her about the move, whether it be that you are moving or that his/her family is moving. Let your child know that just because you may be separated by many miles, doesn’t mean that you won’t be thinking of him all the time.



• Plan something special and fun to do before the move with your child.



• Before the move, try and set a tentative date of when you and your child will next see each other. Having a tentative date in mind will give you both something to look forward to and it’s easier to deal with than leaving it open ended.



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• Make a photo album full of pictures of yourself, your child, and other family members and give it to your child before the move.



• Make the most of your visits. Plan fun activities and then also some down time just to be together and bond.



• Take advantage of today’s technology and have “virtual” visits with a webcam. You can now buy webcams pretty inexpensively. My friend Michelle does this and is able to watch her daughter play peek-a-boo, sing a simple song, etc.

Many people do have long distance adoption relationships, even from the very beginning, and they do work out.

Jenna in the First Parent Blog has first hand experienced in dealing with having her daughter live miles and miles away and often blogs about it and lately has been sharing tips on travel and visits so check out that blog as a resource for more information.

Other posts in this series:
Dealing with the Name Change
Dealing with Divorce