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01/16/07

Tips on Creating a Bond Between Siblings Seperated by Adoption

Posted by : Coley S. in Open Adoption Blog at 09:50 pm , 386 words, 69 views
Categories: What is Open Adoption?, Emotions

Yesterday I shared my personal experience of dealing

with having two children that are still siblings, yet separated by adoption. Today, I’d like to share some tips for those of you who may be in open adoptions dealing with this very issue of ways you can create some sort of bond between the siblings and remind them that they are still siblings.

These tips will work for either adoptive parents or birth parents but both parties need to be on board in order for them to work.

A good way to explain to adopted children about a new sibling by showing ultrasound pictures if at all possible. This might bring up some early questions as to why they were placed for adoption and not parented, but that is ok. These questions will need to be addressed sometime.

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If you are pregnant and planning adoption, a good way to explain to a child that the sibling will be placed for adoption would be to show him the profile of the adoptive parent. Also check out this post in the crisis pregnancy blog for more information on that scenario.

Let the children meet as early as possible. If the adopted child is having a subsequent sibling try to let him or her meet his new sibling at the hospital if at all possible or at least while the child is still a newborn. Of course, the newborn will not remember it but they will have priceless photos and know that they were a part of each others lives from the start.

As they get older, at visits, let them have some one on one time together. Even if you are still in the room, let the children play together while the adults talk. They may argue or bicker at times, but hey, isn’t that one of the things siblings do?