One activity that some birthmothers may find therapeutic and healing is blogging.
Blogging has become so popular in the past few years; so popular in fact that the word was recently added to the dictionary. Blogging is similar to traditional journaling, only in a more modern, technological fashion.
Many triad members are creating personal blogs. Like journaling, a birthmother can blog her innermost thoughts and feelings regarding adoption and being a birthmother. She can laugh, vent, scream, yell, whine, and do anything she wants all from the comfort of her own blog entries. The difference between blogging and traditional journaling lies in the fact that your blog can typically be read by others if you choose to make it public. Other people can also leave comments about your posts which some birthmothers find validating to know that other birthmothers are reading and have experienced or felt the same things.
Friend and fellow birthmother, Jamie, just recently started her own birthmother blog. Jamie says that she enjoyed reading other triad members’ blogs that she decided to give it a try herself by creating her own personal blog.
She uses her blog as a place to write about her thoughts and feelings regarding her birth daughter’s adoption. She works through her personal issues regarding adoption in her blog.
She does find blogging therapeutic and feels like she can truly be herself in her blog without having to worry about hurting someone’s feelings with something she said.
Sometimes in real life, I feel like I cannot be myself or say what I really think, in fear of “rocking the boat”. In blogging I feel like, if you don’t like what I have to say then…Don’t read it. Its like an online diary for me in some ways also..I blog when I have stuff on my mind. I think for me its way of airing things out.
Anyone can create a blog nowadays! It’s simple, easy to do, and a great way to express yourself.
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One caveat …
Once something has been published in a public blog it lives ‘out there’ forever. People need to understand that privacy and blogging don’t go together and that what they write today may still be available years from now when their children, or even grandchildren, might be reading.
Not to suggest blogging is not a great thing, just that people need to understand how it works before they start pouring their hearts out.
Agreed Sandra. They can always blog and not use their real name or reveal any identfying information. I know of a few birthmoms who do that.
Anonymity can be a safety precaution, too, in this crazy world. Great post, Coley
Blogging is good. But I leave the stuff I don’t want everyone to know about in my journal on paper.