http://open.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/the-battle-for-baby-max-continues Blog with information on open adoption. Includes advice, tips, concerns, and news articles about open adoption. Birthparent and Adoptive parent blog on open adoption. Articles, information, and news about the open adoption experience. Sat, 21 Nov 2009 18:44:09 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 http://open.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/the-battle-for-baby-max-continues/comment-page-1#comment-1380 Deb Donatti Sun, 06 Jan 2008 19:29:40 +0000 http://open-adoptio.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/01/06/the-battle-for-baby-max-continues#comment-1380 Well Mama I agree in some respect. NOW would be the time to end the go-round for Max, and I believe bio family would be best at this time, and for his long term well being. I suppose if the courts allow this to bounce back and forth for much longer, that the home he has been in will offer him bonds and security that he will struggle if he loses. Thing is if he remains with the Krauses he will also have immense struggles to come to terms with what was needlessly done to him by his removal in the first place. That is if they even tell him... The court made a horrible decision that has in effect created this situation, placed Max in limbo, and involved a non-relative family who are now emotionally vested in keeping Max. Shame on DFS and the courts of Missouri who still believe that they can carelessly shuffle tiny people around with no more thought that a piece of furnature! Well Mama I agree in some respect. NOW would be the time to end the go-round for Max, and I believe bio family would be best at this time, and for his long term well being.
I suppose if the courts allow this to bounce back and forth for much longer, that the home he has been in will offer him bonds and security that he will struggle if he loses. Thing is if he remains with the Krauses he will also have immense struggles to come to terms with what was needlessly done to him by his removal in the first place. That is if they even tell him…
The court made a horrible decision that has in effect created this situation, placed Max in limbo, and involved a non-relative family who are now emotionally vested in keeping Max. Shame on DFS and the courts of Missouri who still believe that they can carelessly shuffle tiny people around with no more thought that a piece of furnature!

]]> http://open.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/the-battle-for-baby-max-continues/comment-page-1#comment-1379 MamaS Sun, 06 Jan 2008 18:40:02 +0000 http://open-adoptio.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/01/06/the-battle-for-baby-max-continues#comment-1379 Have you even been on an old-fashioned carousel (merry-go-round)? The bio-mother and the kinship placement and the approved foster home and DFC and the courts and the lawyers and the press go round and round until finally it slows and stops and someone is close enough to grab the brass ring (in this case, Baby Max) and the ones who grab the ring get another ride -- parenthood. Baby Max spent three weeks with his mother, three months with the Stocklaufers and now six months with the Krauses. How long before "bonding and belonging" takes precedence over "blood relatives" or does it ever? Have you even been on an old-fashioned carousel (merry-go-round)? The bio-mother and the kinship placement and the approved foster home and DFC and the courts and the lawyers and the press go round and round until finally it slows and stops and someone is close enough to grab the brass ring (in this case, Baby Max) and the ones who grab the ring get another ride — parenthood.
Baby Max spent three weeks with his mother, three months with the Stocklaufers and now six months with the Krauses. How long before “bonding and belonging” takes precedence over “blood relatives” or does it ever?

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