The case of the Stocklaufer family (the Missouri family who was caring for a baby named Max in which the Dad was deemed too "obese" too adopt the child he had been caring for) has been in mentioned in a lot of blogs here at Adoption Blogs and is many different online news articles.

My co-blogger Deb has been doing a great job of keeping us informed and updated of everything that is going on with this case and the Stocklaufer’s family latest request of people to wear a baby blue ribbon in support of their family. Reports also tell us that Gary Stocklaufer had the gastric bypass surgery that was performed pro-bono by a hospital in Texas this past Friday.


All of that said, I can not get the birthmom involved in this case off of my mind. I wrote about her once last week but feel the need to again if only for my own benefit in releasing the feelings and emotions I feel. My thoughts keep turning back to her and how she must feel. It has me wondering how often these types of things happen. Not necessarily a child being removed from a family for the reasons this child has been, but how often does a mother make a decision of a family and believes that that family is destined to be the family who adopts her child only for that situation to crumble and fall a part for one reason or another?

If a woman has made the tough decision to place her child for adoption and the family has passed the home study process (in which their health issues are looked at, doctors reports are requested, etc) then I think the court should respect that decision.

This case has made headlines and has been talked about my many people both online and offline and I wonder how that must feel for her. How does it make her feel to turn on the evening news and see the person she chose to raise her son about to undergo surgery in an attempt to be able to follow through with the promises he made to that birthmother, who is also his relative.

My heart goes out to her wherever she may be....

So, to Max’s birthmom, just in case she were to stumble upon this post, let me say to you that the courts may have overlooked your wishes of who were to raise your son, but others have not forgotten you. As painful as it must be for you to hear about this case on the news or to read about it in the newspapers, hopefully the media attention brought to it will force the courts to reconsider and respect the adoption plan you made.

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Related Posts:
Missouri Man Deemed Too Obese To Adopt - *Update
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The Birthmom in the Gary Stocklaufer Case
A Blue Ribbon for Baby Max
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