In my last post, I wrote about some of the wedding related moments that I have been able to share with my son and his adoptive Mother as a result of open adoption. As I mentioned in that post, A was a bridesmaid in our wedding. But not only was it important to me for her to be a part of our wedding, it was important to me that N, Charlie’s sister by adoption, be a part of our wedding as well. I asked N to be a flower girl in our wedding.

You may be wondering why was it important for me to have Charlie’s sister, N, be an integral part of our wedding party. Several friends asked me that when I was planning the wedding and announced that N would be one of our flower girls. It was important to me because she is such an important part of Charlie’s life.

Before I bonded with A, I bonded with N. She was a little over four when I was pregnant with Charlie and her childish innocence helped break the ice that first time I had dinner in their home before I had officially chosen S and A as Charlie’s adoptive parents to be. She and I played Candy Land that night and I instantly knew while sitting on the floor giggling with her that she would make an excellent big sister. She is one of the big reasons that I ended up choosing her parents and her family. I have a younger brother and totally understand that sibling connection and I wanted Charlie to have a big sister that would look after him just as I did with my own little brother.

Not only that, but I love N. Not just because she is Charlie’s big sister, but because she is a great and lovable kid.

So, seeing as how she was a big reason I chose Charlie’s family in the first place and she plays an important role in his life, I think it’s understandable to many why I wanted her to be in our wedding party as well.

And I couldn’t leave out S, Charlie’s adoptive father. I wanted him to have some sort of special “job” at the wedding as well. So he was asked to say the prayer at the reception.

Again, because of open adoption Charlie’s family was able to be a big part of such a special day and had Charlie himself been old enough to participate in our wedding, then he definitely would have but I don’t see a one and half year old walking down the aisle with a pillow too well! At least he was able to be there and that was good enough for me.

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Photo Credit: Coley S.

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