You probably can’t read the words in that letter, but that is what I call my “love letter” to Charlie that I wrote when he was only a few days old, now hanging framed in his room.

Before Charlie was born, A (Charlie’s adoptive Mom) suggested that I write a letter to Charlie explaining why I had chosen adoption for him. It sounded like a daunting task but one that I knew I must and needed to do. Just two or three days after I had come home from the hospital, I sat down to write the letter. It was not easy, but I tried to just let the words come from the heart and flow instead of thinking about it in a more literary manner.

I wrote the letter in a tone that would be appropriate for a child but wouldn’t be considered totally babyish to a teenager or adult. I knew that the letter was just a tangible explanation, as I would be there over the years to explain things as needed. I printed that letter out on some cute, boyish scrapbooking paper and took it with me on my first visit to give to A for Charlie. A later framed the letter and sat it on Charlie’s dresser.

When I was at his house recently, I walked in his room and looked at the dresser for my letter as I always do. It wasn’t there! I didn’t say anything about it to A but I must admit I was a little disappointed. I slept in Charlie’s room that night and as I was unmaking the bed, I noticed that the letter was hanging on the wall! My heart instantly smiled!!

The next day while talking to A I told her about not seeing the letter on the dresser and how it made me a little sad and then I noticed it on the wall! She laughed at me and told me that Charlie kept knocking it off the dresser so she decided to hang it on the wall so it wouldn’t get broken. She also laughed at me a little more when I told her I took pictures of it! She’s not picture crazed as I am!

While the words I penned in that love letter six years ago as a new birthmother may comfort Charlie one day, I find love and comfort in what isn’t being said audibly by that letter being ever present in Charlie’s room.

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Love Letters
Birthday Letters
Writing Letters


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