Hey, my FIRST Love Thursday post!

I wanted to share this picture of my son and his birthfather E, taken last year at Carson’s second birthday party. It’s a great picture, I see two handsome guys who are very important to each other.

I know my husband is really important to Carson too. He is there every day, takes care of his boo-boos, tucks him in at night, and changes (yes still . . . ) tons of diapers. Jim loves Carson as much as any Daddy could, he is the best, but Carson and E have a little something all their own.

For a while we thought we had lost touch, after this picture was taken. It makes me heartsick to think that this could have been the last picture my son had with E. Thankfully we will have a chance for more this Sunday when we celebrate Carson’s third birthday together.

In September E decided to move. He said he would call and update us as soon as he was settled, but the rest of September, October, November, and December went by with no word. None of the numbers we had worked anymore, all we could do was wait. This mom however is never going to just sit around and wait though, so I did a little online Googling and located the phone number of E’s current girl friend. I did not even knowing her last name, but I found her! Ok, I became stalker A-mom, but that’s what I needed to do for my kiddo.

It seems they were just busy with their lives and the move and had not taken the time to forward us the new info, although they had planned too. The new girl friend was also a bit unsure of how welcome she would be in our little extended family, so perhaps this was why it went on for so long. I was just thankful that contact could be reestablished.So now we are looking forward to getting together this weekend. E has a lot of wonderful things to share with his little birthson, and we want him to be around to do it as long as he is able.

E knows what is like to be Kenyan, a place someday we hope Carson can with his own eyes. Till then, E can share through his. He understands the culture of the Kikuyu tribe from whom our son is descended. His knowledge of that shared heritage is important. He has connections to the birthfamily in Kenya Carson has yet to meet. E can bring them to life for Carson with his stories. He can make Carson real for them so they will look forward to seeing him some day and welcome him like they already know him. E has an understanding about being a black man that Jim can’t and we need his help to show Carson how he can be a handsome and proud black man himself someday.

The thing is even through he is not raising his birthson, he has so much to offer. If you wanted to condense all those other things I spoke of into one thing, I would call it love. He has his love to share.

Thanks for letting ME share and Happy Love Thursday!