The best thing about being with someone for so very long, is that they get to know just what you need to pick yourself up from a really rough spot. They remember you when, as in when you were not so chubby, sporting so much grey hair, and how hot you once looked in leg warmers. Thankfully I have just that in my “retro love”, my husband of eighteen plus years, J. He knows this week has taken a toll on my sanity, and he understands why. Our dear five year old daughter mostly never lets a person catch their breath before the battle begins anew, so today he attempted to recharge me a little with a funny film as a gift.

For me corny romantic comedies are just the ticket to get me giggling, and my dear husband brought home a copy of “Music & Lyrics” tonight. This is a movie I had wanted to see way back when in theaters, but with all that goes on in my home, I never really was able to afford myself the time. I admit it has a highly predictable storyline, and is not academy award material, but the hilarious retro 80's POP! video had us all in stitches from the start. The retro theme to the movie had me thinking back to less complicated times in my own life, and the romance! The romance reminded me of what I am all to often, letting my attachment disordered child hijack from the relationship between myself and my husband.

Well the film was entertaining (more so the second showing, after we finally got the screaming child to sleep), and it was also very, very enlightening. I want that, I want that again in my life. No, not the leg warmers (or the crazy flock of seagulls hairdos) but the connection, the excitement and the romance with my J. I think we understand now one of the best things we can do for our whole family, and especially our RAD child, is to keep our own connection going strong, no matter how old (retro?) It seems to get.

Children can certainly place extra demands on a marriage. Adoption adds another layer of challenges, and children with special needs might sometimes almost tip the boat right out of the water. I am so glad I have a husband who has a few corny little romantic dvds up his sleeve, to help us get through the rough waters, and allow us to laugh about where we have been on the journey to get here!

We thought we might look funny as an 80's Glam band, what do you think?

Love Thursday- The Good Guy

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