Today my son’s Birthmother P emailed our family sending photos of her new baby boy, born earlier this month. My little guy was so very excited to see pictures of “his baby” as he has been calling him during the time we anxiously awaited the birth here a few states away.

Over the last few weeks we called P several times to see how she was doing. We also sent a few care packages of gifts, baby items, and necessities. The most interesting thing we learned today in the emails was a bit about how linked these two little boys already are, even though they have yet to meet in person. They did share a space, a very intimate connection, at different times but for each of them uniquely familiar. The both began their lives in one mother’s womb.

At the start of May my son and I were out shopping and he came to me with a soft little blue elephant toy in hand asking me, “We need this for my baby, ok?” I told him we had sent enough for now, but he just kept insisting. Well I am a softie for this handsome little man in my life so of course I bought it and we mailed it out to P the next day.

When we received photos of the new baby today I noted that he was lying in a crib decorated with a jungle theme populated with blue elephants! To make things more interesting my son decided that the little elephant was urgently in need of purchase exactly 24 hours before his brother’s birth.

Perhaps it was just as his birthmother began feeling her labor pains that our shared son felt the need to do something here to prepare? How did my little fellow even know that “his baby” needed a little matching elephant to cuddle, and now was the right time? Well I guess I can simply chalk it up to the wonder of sibling connections.

I do believe in the power of emotional, human connections, I have experienced them intensely myself before. One time that comes to mind was a cold, snowy Saturday three short years ago, when I sat at home waiting to learn if I would become a mother again. I had no labor pains. I had no idea if P was in labor. Despite this I kept going to the room I had prepared for the possibility, arranging and rearranging the toys and clothing nervously, and then the phone rang. A little boy had been born and soon we would get a second call to come meet him. I think he was somehow letting me know to prepare for him.

I am so very excited for P and F and their precious new son! I am also equally as excited to know that over the coming years my son will have many more moments of connection with his little brother. I look forward to many of those times being in person and filled with physical connections like warm and brotherly hugs between them. Till that time I am sure they will be ok though. They have a connection I have already been witness to. A brother’s love shown in the form of a little blue elephant.

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