Comments on: Letter from Adoptive Parents in Ask Amy Column

By: Brittanys1stmom

Brittanys1stmom — Tue, 16 Jan 2007 00:59:08 +0000

That is a sweet letter. I would love to get a letter like that from my daughter’s adoptive parents.

By: Marmy_4

Marmy_4 — Wed, 29 Nov 2006 23:59:57 +0000

i personally liked the letter, but then again i dont have the type of adoption that was common for that time. i think they are just trying to be like the rest of do gooders of society and reasure that the birthmother tried to do the right thing. jmo.

By: Peanut

Peanut — Sun, 26 Nov 2006 21:39:31 +0000

Geez, I just thought they were saying how grateful they were.
How dare they.

By: Coley S.

Coley S. — Sun, 26 Nov 2006 16:44:06 +0000

No problem Jan! You are entitled to your opinon!

Question though – was there any possible way to include them in their life in that era? Even if the adoptive family wanted to, was it possible?

By: Jan Baker

Jan Baker — Sat, 25 Nov 2006 18:31:38 +0000

I'm SO glad you said that Jenna! I have difficulty stomaching letters like that too. And I did not find the mention of the hospital bill amusing in the least!

And the part about, you may have.....like all the birth mother's pain was worth it because the adoptive parents enjoyed the experience? Ick!

Lastly, if the aparents loved and respected the birth parents, they would include them in the life of the child, not just write a gushy letter. Sorry, Coley!

By: Coley S.

Coley S. — Sat, 25 Nov 2006 15:49:22 +0000

I took that as kind of an attempt at humor or tryig to make the letter “cute” but I see your point.

By: Jenna Hatfield

Jenna Hatfield — Sat, 25 Nov 2006 14:34:16 +0000

Actually, the letter makes me nauseated.

We paid your hospital bills and have been reaping the benefits ever since.

While I'm sure this may have been said tongue in cheek and with a grand attempt at humor, it makes me think of some woman who should be grateful that her bills were paid as her child was ripped from her.

This was the baby scoop era, still. Most likely, as he mentioned later in the letter, this decision was made for her.

Then again, at least she doesn't have hospital bills! She should be grateful!

Sigh.

By: Heather

Heather — Sat, 25 Nov 2006 14:25:02 +0000

I read the hospital part differently – an acknowledgement of what they received completely outweighed what they put in. I guess it’s a difference of perspective…