Last month I posted a blog titled “What are you afraid of?” It discussed fears and how communicating these fears of adoptive parents and birthmothers is the key to building a trusting and successful relationship. My son’s adoptive mother and I often shared our fears openly and I attribute the success of our arrangement to this fact.
It was sometimes surprising to each of us to hear what the other was afraid of. So, I’d like to ask for your input here. Please comment on this and share with me your fears. Be honest, everyone has them and if we just start talking about them we can start getting past them. I want to hear what you think! This not only gives me the opportunity to address them, and find answers for you that may help, but sometimes just taking that step to acknowledge your own fears will help you get on the road to working through them.
Are you a potential adoptive parent that’s afraid to go the open adoption route for fear it means co-parenting with the birthmother? Or a birthmother who is afraid you’ll choose a family that will change their mind about your openness and stop communicating with you? Or maybe you are an adoptive mother who is a afraid the birthmother will change her mind. Or you’re afraid your child will get to know the birthmother and then she’ll drop of his life and disappoint him? Maybe you’re afraid you agreed to more than you now feel comfortable with. Or maybe you wish you had agreed to something more.
Share with me your fears, the good the bad and the ugly. Only by putting it out there are we able to get the information that can help us overcome these fears!
I’m looking forward to hearing from you!