http://open.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/lesson-from-the-la-times-article-on-open Blog with information on open adoption. Includes advice, tips, concerns, and news articles about open adoption. Birthparent and Adoptive parent blog on open adoption. Articles, information, and news about the open adoption experience. Sat, 13 Mar 2010 11:49:13 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 http://open.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/lesson-from-the-la-times-article-on-open/comment-page-1#comment-1304 mariah Fri, 10 Aug 2007 03:38:43 +0000 http://open-adoptio.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/08/06/lesson-from-the-la-times-article-on-open#comment-1304 I asked my almost 20 yr. old DD how she felt about having contact with her birthmother, and if she missed it now that their family moved to another part of the country. She said that she was glad to have met her birthmother and liked knowing where she lived, but that was enough for now. She agreed that records should be open and secrets are not good. The interesting thing to me is that I usually initiated communication until DD was in her early teens. Her birthmother has initiated most of it since then. She always checks with me to see if contacting our DD is okay at that point in time. She actually has had more contact with her birthmother than her dad's grandparents, who live much closer. I hope this makes sense. I asked my almost 20 yr. old DD how she felt about having contact with her birthmother, and if she missed it now that their family moved to another part of the country. She said that she was glad to have met her birthmother and liked knowing where she lived, but that was enough for now. She agreed that records should be open and secrets are not good. The interesting thing to me is that I usually initiated communication until DD was in her early teens. Her birthmother has initiated most of it since then. She always checks with me to see if contacting our DD is okay at that point in time. She actually has had more contact with her birthmother than her dad’s grandparents, who live much closer. I hope this makes sense.

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