Tomorrow I am supposed to be the librarian at my daughter’s school, it’s about the only thing that I really “do” anymore around other mommy-parent type people. I just never seem to “click” (and I do mean click baby) with any other mom types out there, so in effect I have just given up.

Honestly I am not quite sure why I get the long strange looks as the other moms take a few steps back from my approach. Why is it a big blank stare and no reply to my endless chirping of “Where did you find that?” Or “ How does your daughter/son respond to this?” Or how about my lack of invites to playgroups, and then the group gravitating to one corner (the farthest from me) of the room if I DO happen to invite myself and expect to not be treated like I have the plague? The nerve!

Well I will tell you that most days I wonder if it has to do with the “Adoption factor”( with the exception of the ones I forgot my deodorant and mouth wash). You see as soon as some of the mommy lovelies knew that I was an “adoptive” mom, I guess I fell just a bit shy of the full fledged mommy-dom that would allow me to fully participate. One of the worst instances was all the times I truly tried to participate with my daughter’s scout troop events. The letters coming home were always begging for help, and I offered time and time again, only to be turned away, or forgotten. The most aggravating part was to later over hear the troop moms complaining about the lack of help all year! Wha? But I offered! It must have been overlooked. Oh, that’s just to bad dear!

Why do people have to be that way? I noticed there has been a flurry of discussion here at the blogs lately about how adoptive and birth moms just can’t seem to be non-judgmental of each other at times, but I think it almost looks like a woman/mom phenomenon in general. Not to long ago I posted about the very thing, The Mommy Wars, and just pleaded for some understanding between moms. Why do we have to weigh and measure each other to pieces? I mean I am as willing to lend support as I am eager to relish it, a plus-plus situation.

I know to some people being a parent by way of adoption comes in just shy of the full deal in their minds. While I do acknowledge the differences, come on, I really AM a mom just like other moms in the most important ways, no matter how they achieved their mommy status. It feels good for ALL moms to be accepted and validated, and guess what, we can get there with out downgrading anyone to ignored status.

In the meantime I am going to form my own crazy, “Got Kids? You’re a MOM!” group. (Revolutionary huh?) You got kids, you’re a mom, and your welcome.

Can someone else volunteer their living room to host please?

For mom’s just needing a good laugh today check out the ultra funny mom at Suburban Turmoil and get a giggle from her Oscar night hair review.

Enjoy!