I like to believe that as complicated and emotional as adoption can be, there is indeed a higher purpose involved. Those of us who have taken this path less traveled can find faith and hope that we have all been brought together through adoption for a bigger purpose known only to our God.

When I think of how many of my own ideals I have been asked by God to set aside by becoming an adoptive parent I wonder how I can possible meet the task at hand. Certainly there are times when joy is a reward for all the devotion and effort and I have to laugh then because it makes me think of a favorite quote. . .

I know God won't give me anything I can't handle.
I just wish he didn't trust me so much
– Mother Teresa

Wow, He must trust those of us involved with adoption a lot! Isn’t that something special to be said? God must feel we have the strength to do something most human beings do not understand. He has this purpose for us and He knows we can handle it. Just keeping this in mind should help even the most unsure find some of that earlier mentioned faith and hope. He is there with us, He has a plan and we are trusted by Him to carry it forward.

Some out there prefer to focus on how difficult the situation of adoption can be. When you lose your focus (God is trusting you here) all you can see is the difficultly. It might feel like a battle that is too large, a storm to intense to weather for some. This is when another quote comes to mind here. . .

Stop telling God how big your storm is -
Instead tell your storm how big your GOD is.
– Unknown

Knowing that God has moved in our life by way of adoption can at first seem hard to understand, but allowing Him to come into our open adoption relationships and carry out His greater plan for us may just move us closer into our relationship with Him as well. I have to believe that becoming closer to God can bring real healing to those who have suffered through adoption too.


Healing does not mean going back to the way things were before,
but rather allowing what is now to move us closer to God
--- Ram Dass

Well I don’t always understand His will, but I am listening!


Photo- Kathryn Fincher