I received a lovely eternity diamond necklace from Brenna's a-folks. The only time I ever take it off is when I go to bed and when I shower. Its beautiful and everytime I look at it, it warms my heart because I remember the note M wrote to me. The words on the card can still make me cry to this day. Now, I am not saying all adoptive folks should get their birthmothers any kind of jewelry, just sharing what I received. I am debating on sending my stuffed animal rabbit to Brenna for her first bday that I have owned since I was about in 3rd grade. I think it might be a sentimental gift for Brenna.

Aw, that is a sweet gift for Brenna Jenn! If you can stand to part with it! Now that you mentioned that I may just do a gifts for bkids post! :) I think the gift that the aparents gave you sounds very nice and I don't blame you for not taking it off!

My husband and I did a few things - we spent a lot of time with our son's Birthmother before she gave birth to such a little sweetie- we were there in the hospital, and after he was born we spent time with him - when she got hungry we went to her favorite place to eat and picked up a meal she had eaten with us many times before..along with some much awaited starbucks - The next day we brought roses for her, we were very uncertain what do bring. As said above nothing can fill that void - Finishing up the morning she was sent home from the hospital we went grocerie shopping for her picking up all her favorite foods/soaps/lotions/laundry stuff - as we knew it would be a while before she could do any shopping. I know that this was very special to her.

At our first meeting out of the hospital we gave her a ring with 5 stones representing Her, Her daughter - us as the AP and the son she lovingly placed with us. She never takes this ring off and I know it means the world to her. She mentions it all the time. I think anything you do will be special be creative and keep in mind all states have different restirctions on how much you can spend or the things you can get for these special ladies- I say if you know your limits - then do your best for her as she is doing a life changing thing for you--- what a blessing this baby will be!!!

Good luck - she'll love anything you choose for her=)