Easter is Sunday! Can you believe it? It really doesn’t feel like it; or at least to me it doesn’t! Partially on my part it could be because I have been so sick and under the weather from what they thought was the flu and now have decided is a stomach ulcer. But, it could also be in part because Easter is coming early this year.

It’s good in a way that Easter is early and I just haven’t had much of a chance to think about it yet this year as I haven’t started the bittersweet dread I have with some holidays. Don’t get me wrong, I love holidays. I typically (when I’m feeling like myself) go all out for Easter, but each holiday reminds me of what I’m missing. Even in the midst of celebrating a holiday with my family and my parented child, I’m still thinking of what I’m missing with my placed child and I know that feeling will not ever go away.

It’s important for me to think ahead of each holiday and know the ways that I can best deal with it so that I am prepared. The ways I usually get through the holidays are:
1. I don’t isolate myself. This Easter, I’ll be spending time at my parent’s home and I will of course be with my husband and Noah, so I won’t be isolated.

2. I do something for my child. Typically each Easter, I send Charlie and his sister a little something in the mail but being so sick I haven’t done that this year. I did manage to mail them each an Easter card.

3. I do something in honor of my child. I usually say a special prayer for Charlie on all major holidays. When dyeing Easter Eggs with Noah this year, I may dye one in Charlie’s favorite color and write his name on it, which is an excellent idea Jenna suggested last year in a post in the birth/first parent blog.

4. I’ll talk to Charlie. I’ll either call him or he will call me usually on all the big holidays. I’m planning on asking him his favorite Easter candy when I speak with him, because that’s another little thing that I don’t know about him.

5. I will blog/journal if I feel the urge. Writing always helps me so if I feel that I need to write to get extra emotions or feelings out, then I will.

6. Lastly, I’ll talk with other birthmothers who are probably experiencing similar feelings. I’ll support them as they support me.

What have you done or do you plan to do to get through the Easter holiday?

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