As a member of the adoption triad, we all need support and others who have experienced or are experiencing the same things we are experiencing. Personally speaking, my family and friends try very hard to be supportive but no one truly gets it as a birthmom does.

I realized this just days after coming home from the hospital after giving birth to and relinquishing Charlie. My friends and family tried so hard to support me but they just didn’t truly understand the feelings I was experiencing.

Sleepless, alone, and desperate one night in those early days, I turned on my computer. I began typing in various adoption related words. I wasn’t finding much. I continued to search though and stumbled upon the forums here at adoption.com.

I read through posts, trying to find someone who had a similar situation to mine. I saw many older birthmoms who had posted. I saw birthmoms who had closed adoptions. And then I saw one that caught my eye, the subject read, “Is anyone out There?”

As I read the words, I knew my prayer had been answered. She had a baby girl that was placed in an open adoption just days before my Charlie’s birth. She was southern like me, not that that was pre-requisite for a friend, but it helped me to feel more comfortable in responding. She was parenting a son, lime me, and she was relatively close to my age. I responded.

I can not tell you how much hearing her say “I understand” or “I feel that too!” meant to me. I felt like no one else in the world really understand until I met Lani.

I am blessed that I found Lani so early on in my post adoption process and I’m blessed that we hit it off and became friends so quickly. My hope and prayer is that each of you reading has either found or will find someone who “gets it.”

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