I still have weddings on the brain! In the last two posts, I have written about my son’s adoptive family being involved in our wedding and both his adoptive mom and sister were in our wedding party. As I stated in one of those posts, asking my son’s adoptive family to participate in our wedding and to be there, felt only natural to me however, I did worry about how other people would react.

At that point in time, Charlie was about one and a half years old. My parents hadn’t been very involved in the open adoption visits or anything at that point. They’d only seen him from a far once since he was born when A and her family came to visit Noah in the hospital when he had surgery. My Dad seemed uncomfortable anytime I brought up Charlie or his family so we avoided the subject. My Mom seemed better when I’d bring him up, but I could still tell it was a hard subject for her so it was only mentioned when I felt like it had to be.

I was very worried about how my parents would react to them being a part of the wedding. I did contemplate (for a brief moment) not even asking them, but then I quickly realized that this was MY wedding day. Charlie and his family are a part of my extended family and it is only natural for any bride to want some members of her extended family present and involved in the wedding.

And I was no different. If my parents didn’t want to be involved in Charlie’s life, that was their choice but on my wedding day I needed them to not make their presence an issue. Thankfully there were no issues or breakdowns on my wedding day. I’m glad I didn’t opt to not ask Charlie’s family to be involved. I know that I would have regretted it later.

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Photo Credit: Coley S.

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