Your child’s adoptive parents have announced that they are going to have a new addition to their family. They may be adopting again or perhaps they have unexpectedly become pregnant. Regardless of the means of how the child is coming to them, they are preparing for a new arrival!

How does this make you as a birthmom feel? Do you feel excited and happy for your child and his or her family? Do you feel a little anxious or nervous that perhaps your child will not get as much attention as they did before the new addition? Does a subsequent adopted child bring up all the old feelings and emotions you recall as a new birthmother?

I purposely chose a family that already had a child because I wanted to insure that my child was not an only child. I wanted him to have a sibling; someone to bond with, look up to, bicker with, and conspire against his parents with; all the things that my younger brother and I did growing up. Ya know, all the things siblings are supposed to do!

Here is what some other birthmothers had to say when they were told the news that their child’s family would be adding another child to the mix.

• “I was thrilled for them. They are incredible parents to my son and very good to me. I know that they would be great to another birthmother as well.” ~ K.



• “I was taken aback at first as they announced they were pregnant and I had thought they were unable to get pregnant. But after I had time to get used to the idea, I was happy for their family.” ~ M.



• ”I was happy that my child was going to be a big sister. I enjoyed being a big sister and I was glad she would have that opportunity too!” ~ G.

Support your child in this endeavor too and send him or her a “congratulations you are going to be a big brother/sister” card!


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Other Posts in this Series:
Dealing with the Name Change
Dealing with Divorce
Dealing with Moving Part 1 and Part 2