What I assumed would be a lazy morning, lying around on the couch at home, turned into quite a busy day for me! I am someone who hardly ever uses the phone, but I pretty much found it ringing off the hook all morning. Somehow the day got away from me, with the receiver glued to my ear well into the afternoon!

Coming down off a really bad weekend of Cierra either tantruming or extreme angering, (read here about what I am anxious to try to help this), I decided to take my mother-in-law’s help when she offered to take my girls to school. I planned to sleep in late with Carson and perhaps get some house work in. Instead I had some great conversations with two friends about adoption, and openness, and the same sort of fears we all seem to share, regardless of our position in the triad.

My first call was from a dear friend of many years. My friend J is an adoptive mom to a beautiful little girl who will be two years old soon, and she was calling with exciting news about how her daughter’s adoption has progressed. This is J’s first child, and she is still exploring the many nuances about her daughter’s adoption, and really and deeply considering what they all mean and how she feels about those challenges. She had a ton of excitement in her voice talking about a recent visit with her daughter’s birthmother that was emotional, yet rewarding for her. I have to admit I was also happy to hear about the compassion and empathy she is nurturing for her daughter’s birthmother. It makes me feel so good to see others finding positives rewards in ongoing contact.

My second big call of the day was my good friend Coley. It was great to hear about her super birthday celebration she had with her family, even if she didn’t save me any of her strawberry shortcake! She is also pretty excited about her birthson Charlie meeting another milestone with his own upcoming birthday. While I know all things about such milestones are not easy for my friend, hearing her deepest thoughts about that, gives me perspective about what my own children’s birthmoms might be feeling. I do love hearing about the relationship she and Charlie’s adoptive family have, it reinforces for me that what I am doing in nurturing connections with my children’s birthfamilies is very important.

The remainder of the day was filled with little calls here and there from other friends and family. One call was not so good, because being so wrapped up in all my frustration with how Cierra’s weekend had gone, I had forgotten that today I was supposed to be helping a friend watch her babysitting crowd, while she took care of an appointment for her daughter. Oh geez did I feel extremely senile! Thank goodness this friend is very, very understanding, and ultra, ultra forgiving!

Well most of the day was spent in my jammies (yeah that’s me on the phone in the picture), just as I planned. I am glad about the unplanned phone calls though, and the chance to hear from friends who are experiencing the challenges of adoption, and who are anxious to share with me their unique journeys.



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