In my last post, I wrote about the friendship A and I share. As I was writing that post, I started thinking of some of the bonding moments that A and I have shared over the six years since Charlie was born. While, there is plenty of time to chat and bond when your child is with you, I think it’s also good to have some moments without your child present, where you can just chat.

I’ll share a few of things we have done and then perhaps you (if you are an adoptive mother or birthmother who are trying to work on a friendship) could try some of these ideas.

1. Do dinner or lunch. This is an easy one! Try and steal a night away and do dinner or lunch just by yourselves. It is good to get away from the kids sometimes. A and I have been able to have many heart to heart conversations during meals without the kids and talk about issues that we wouldn’t necessarily want to discuss with the kids present.

2. Have a spa day or afternoon or what have you. Get a facial, go get a manicure or a pedicure. A and I have not done this one because she is not a real “girly girl” and doesn’t live for manicures and pedicures like I do but I’d go in a second if she ever suggested it!

3. Go shopping! Most women like to shop right? I know I do! A and I have done a lot of shopping together over the years, whether it be for one of our kids or ourselves. One of my favorite shopping trips was right before Charlie’s first birthday when we went shopping together for the party supplies for Charlie’s first birthday party. I was honored that she was so thoughtful to ask me to go with her.

4. Chat on the phone. This would work well if you are trying to build a friendship but are separated by distance. Lots of people have great cell phone long distance plans that would allow calling to be free after certain hours. A and I have had some great chats on the phone over the years. She’s also been very thoughtful and shared many of Charlie’s first with me via the telephone.

Have you had a great “bonding moment” with your child’s adoptive mother or birthmother, whatever the case may be? Please share with us!

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Photo Note: Me and A bonding while I am seven months pregnant! Sadly, this is only one of the two photos I have of me and A on my computer at the moment since I had a computer crash not too long ago!

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