As some may (or may not) have noticed, I have not been writing very much as of late. I am right along with those others on the blogs who have been feeling worn down physically by events, and emotionally working with my challenging children. Mix that along with the challenges that contact and open adoption can sometimes present, and I am exhausted! Honestly though, it goes far beyond that.

Part of my exhaustion comes from the never ending criticism that can come from those outside, or even inside the adoption community at large. While I understand that sharing my innermost feelings, about my own person experiences with adoption, does not mean that I corner the market on what is right or wrong, so many often seem to wish to attack as if I believed it did. While I know that I am not the only one who has gone through being misunderstood or unfairly judged by people, who are reading about only a tiny portion of my journey, (it seems to be a phenomenon,) that makes it no less the bitter scalding for me.

Some really believe if we share the main connector of adoption in general, that we should all be on the same page, and speaking the same language. The truth is, the stuff going out to be shared, once it has left our collective lips (or fingertips) is then perceived in a thousand different ways which we no longer have any control over. We may as well be speaking a million different languages, because so much certainly gets lost in the translation.

The bottom line is that my experience is as different, and as unique as I am, and no one knows it better than I do. By blogging my adoption journey, I am letting anyone who reads in on just a tiniest portion of the whole story, and only my personal take on that. There are so many other people involved in my situation, my spouse, my children, their birthparents, and all of them see things they way they do, and not always the way I do.

I admit that I have been very upset by the way I along with many others have been attacked for our own understanding of our own adoption experience. Most of what I am writing here about is what I have experienced in my own life, or my own perceptions about adoption in general. My thoughts don’t need to match everyone else, there is no way they ever could.

If someone who reads finds something adoption related that I have experienced helpful, that is wonderful, that’s why I do what I do. If people disagree with something, I do welcome dialog in a respectful tone, as I am also here to learn things myself. The thing I can’t or won’t tolerate is someone who decides to become the antagonist toward me on a personal level. Believe me that is not “censorship” it is self-preservation, and I have a right to it when it comes to information about my family.

All the bloggers here at Adoptionblogs.com are here to share what they see, hear, experience, and their personal understanding of that information, it’s what we do. We may not agree, even amongst ourselves, but that is the beauty of what we have to share, there is always room for learning.


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