Birth Mothers- Our Perfect Fit

“No, actually,” she said. “That’s the only thing that’s been going right.”
The birthmother from our second adoption was talking to her caseworker recently and told her that everything in her life was going crazy.
“A lot of case workers have to work out the issues with the adoptive couple,” her caseworker told her. “Don’t worry, you guys will get it figured out.”
And that’s when she said that we were the only thing going right at the time.
We appreciated that more than she knows- knowing that she thinks we were a little ray of sunshine in her cloudy days. That was a few months ago that she told us that, and now that placement is a little further into our past, her days have been a lot brighter and she has been able to find some peace of mind in her regular activities. Still, it’s times like that that when I’m especially grateful for two women who were able to find themselves the perfect match. And that we are- a perfect match.

After we had gone through the adoption process once, we better realized that we weren’t just bringing a new child into our family, but we would be brining in a whole new branch to our family tree- the birth parents. So when we met for the first time, we were actually a little more focused on what the birth mother was like than trying to anticipate what the child would be like. She slid right into our family circle. She was a perfect fit and I’m glad she felt it enough to choose us for a permanent match. And here we are, growing closer every day and forever grateful that she found us- not only because our home is a little more full with a baby girl in the nursery, but because we love what she brings to our home as a birth mother.
The relationship we have with our son’s birth mother is completely different from with our daughter’s birth mother because, well, the two ladies are completely different. They were different ages, come from different backgrounds… they’re just different from each other. Just like any relationship that comes into our life, they both bring different personality traits and different qualities to the table as well. We love that. We don’t wish they were the same. And the best part is that both birth mother’s are everything we hoped for. Sure, we’ve had our issues that we’ve needed to sort out. I would expect that every open adoption needs to iron out the wrinkles. Still, both sides have always been open and willing to tackle things together.
I’m so grateful that they found us. They made the right decision. I’m not saying that we are the perfect couple or that we’re even anything out of the ordinary, but I’m so grateful that they were in tune enough to find the couple (us) that fit what they needed. We’ve been good for them, and they’ve been good for us. This is just the beginning of a lifetime relationship.

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