I just got off the phone with adoptive mom Cynthia Stocklaufer who had called me with a special request for the larger adoption community. At this time the family is asking for anyone, and everyone who cares about their plight, and supports the rights of families not to be discriminated against because of weight, or race, or other unfair judgement, to please wear a baby blue ribbon to show their support. Tomorrow will be an especially important day to begin this campaign, as adoptive dad Gary will be undergoing gastric bypass surgery, in order to quickly lose much of the weight that the Jackson county, Missouri court takes issue with. This dad is risking his life in order to have his son come home, what more could be asked of any good parent?

In case you have missed some of my previous blogs, the Stocklaufer’s are the Missouri family who had their adoptive son Max removed because the court declared dad Gary to obese to adopt. This family is not only baby Max’s hopeful adoptive family, and the family he has lived with all his tiny life, but they also have a biological connection. Max is the biological son of Gary’s cousin.

I have had the pleasure of talking with Cynthia several times now, as have some of our other bloggers, and I can hear in her voice the warmth and love she has for her son Max and her whole family. This family’s story has taken on such a personal nature for me, because I have been in that same court, with some of the same persons involved, wondering if I would be coming home with my own son. The courts gave us undue pressure because my son is black and we are white, but it could just have easily been my own large size that they focused on.

As one mother to another I wanted to assure Cynthia that people do care, people understand this is situation is unjust, and people stand behind her family in support. The one other thing I wish I could assure Cynthia of, is that her son will be home soon, but I cannot. Thankfully that assurance rests with a much higher power, and I don’t mean the Jackson county court.

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