Fourth of July

I know that many discussions have occurred online about family preservation. The main feeling behind this is terminology that no child should be separated from their family of origin if they can be safely be cared for there, and whose parent (or parents) wish to raise them. I can’t argue with that belief under that context. If parents what to parent, and there is no evidence that a child might be abused or neglected, he or she should not be placed for adoption. No one who is capable, and not at risk to be abusive, should be forced to place a child. I think most understand this meaning, and support it on some level. I would like to share another feeling about… [more]

In my last post, I wrote about how the fourth of July once again has me missing my birth son. This holiday has reminded me of my loss of motherhood and the things that I am missing and am not doing with Charlie. However, there are some things that I can do to cope. Others may be experiencing some holiday blues as well, so I will share my ideas with you.

• Send your child a card. Yes, a fourth of July card might be a little cheesy, but it’s a great surprise for your child to receive a card out of the blue and it lets him/her know that you are thinking of him.
• Do something in

During my pregnancy, I suspected as a birthmother big holidays (Christmas, Mother’s Day, and my son’s birthday) would be hard to deal with and would be emotional for me. I suspected that the holidays would make me think of Charlie and my loss of motherhood to him and I was correct. Christmas, Mother’s Day and his birthday are all difficult days. What I didn’t suspect was that the smaller holidays (4th of July, Halloween to name a few) would be emotional as well. But one day before the 4th of July, I find myself in a little funk and thinking of Charlie. Growing up, we always went to my Grandparents house for the 4th of July. They had a big swimming pool in… [more]