In my last post, I explained what Birthmother’s Day is all about and I mentioned that events, receptions, and banquets are beginning to pop up all across the country as Birthmother’s Day becomes more widespread and accepted in the adoption community.

Birthmother’s Day events vary and there is really no wrong or right to a Birthmother’s Day event. Most of the time they are hosted by adoption agencies, adoption or birthmother support groups, and occasionally crisis pregnancy centers.... more

Birthmother’s Day is not a holiday you will find on your calendar. Nor will you find Birthmother’s Day cards in the aisles at Hallmark.

Birthmother’s Day is beginning to become more recognized in the adoption community. It was created in 1990 by a group of Seattle birthmothers not only to educate others about adoption and bring recognition to birthmothers but to give birthmothers the opportunity to come together and honor the children they gave life to and relinquished. Birthmother’s Day is always... more

This Love Thursday is about birthday candles! Not the normal little stick birthday candles but the number ones that proudly display the birthday boy or girl’s age. These candles have come to have special meaning to me.

Using the numbered candles is a thing that Charlie’s adoptive family does. Growing up, we just used the regular ole’ stick candles and just put however many that person was turning. I just continued doing that with Noah.

At Charlie’s first birthday party, A. had a number one candle on his birthday cake. After the party was over, she gave... more

Happy May all! Boy, I am glad April is over as it was a crazy, hectic month for me, ending with a major computer crash in which I lost a ton of files. Big lesson there, folks, back up your files and pictures on CDs or disks periodically! It may take you a little bit of time every few weeks but it will save you tears and heartache in the long run if you do have a big crash!

Faith in the Hoping to Adopt Blog beat me to the punch with in her introductory post on her series on Mother’s Day. I... more

Recent posts by Theresa and Cindy discussed how Mother’s Day is a hard day for their children which in turn can make it a hard day for themselves. I appreciated their posts as I had never thought about it from that point of view.

Mother’s Day is of course, a hard day for others in the adoption community as well. I don’t know that birthmothers experience the loss of their motherhood more... more

Today is my four year wedding anniversary! I have already written a lot about how wonderful I think my husband is (yes, I’m a little biased) so I will not bore you with those details again. But I haven’t told you how much it meant to me and how meaningful it was to have Charlie’s adoptive family sharing a special occasion with us and being such an integral part of our wedding.

This picture was taken at the wedding reception. I got married on a baseball field which... more

Today is my precious Danika’s big 10th birthday! It is hard to believe that our family has shared a whole decade of watching her grow in grace and beauty. Honestly where does the time go?

Today, although her actual birthday, was also our preparation day for the family party tomorrow. We worked around the house getting ready and she was so excited to get several calls from friends, family, and birthfamily through out the day. When her little brother and sister... more

Easter is one of the most monumental times of the year for believers. Because of the emptiness of a long ago burial tomb our lives can hold hope for a full and forever future. The greatest gift ever was in the form of an “empty” Easter morning.

Our family celebrates like many others. We went to church, followed by the egg hunts both there and at the home of grandparents, but through out the day I found myself falling into a different kind of empty feeling. Looking at my children I could not help but think of what their birthfamilies have... more

I hope that all of you are having a good Easter Sunday!

Holidays are typically a time for families to get together and many holidays have a focus of fun traditions, customs, and activities for children. All of this can make holidays especially hard for birthmothers as they are not able to be with their children on holidays. They may always feel like there is a missing piece, a missing family member on holidays. One of my favorite New Found Glory songs, Sonny, was written for a band... more

It’s April! Can you believe it? The pages are flying off the calendar, aren’t they? Each month, I marvel at how quickly the previous month seems to have gone by. It’s teaching me a valuable and important lesson: time doesn’t stand still. Live in the moment! Don’t procrastinate!

Last month, several bloggers recapped their posts for the month and this month I thought I’d follow suit. It just seems like a nice way to bring closure to the month and for me personally to look back over and see what I have accomplished.

I really didn’t have any major series... more