Yes It is National Adoption Awareness Month, and that has been on my mind all day today. While glancing around online as I made my own post, I could see that it is in the thoughts of many in the internet world, and in a variety of ways, not all of them positive. I personally prefer to take a positive spin on the purpose of the month, although I can understand some of the mixed feelings many have. Adoption has it’s negatives, but I believe it is good to put those aside for a time, and focus... more

One of the positives in our open adoption has definitely become my relationship with Charlie’s adoptive parents. I did choose them to be Charlie’s adoptive parents while I was still pregnant, so I did have the time before he was born to get to know them. Although he was born early, so it wasn’t that terribly long. Our relationship before Charlie was born and the time directly after he was born was like walking on eggshells. We were all treading new waters not really knowing exactly what the “right” thing to do or say was.

It was difficult and just as the there is the saying about “Rome... more

In my last post, I wrote about the friendship A and I share. As I was writing that post, I started thinking of some of the bonding moments that A and I have shared over the six years since Charlie was born. While, there is plenty of time to chat and bond when your child is with you, I think it’s also good to have some moments without your child present, where you can just chat.

I’ll share a few of things we have done and then perhaps you (if you are an adoptive mother or birthmother who are trying... more

I’ve been thinking about my friendship with A. a lot lately. Yes, she is Charlie’s adoptive mother but she is more than that to me, she is my friend too.

I think that there is a common misconception among some people that adoptive mothers and birthmothers can not be friends but hopefully the friendship that A and I share as well as the friendship that Jenna has written about between her and her daughter’s adoptive mother in the birth/first... more