While chatting with some birthmother friends recently, we discovered that we all had similar New Year’s Resolutions of writing and mailing our child a letter once a month. I have attempted this in the past and although I have come close, I have never made it each month. So I was brainstorming some ways to make achieving this goal a little easier. Charlie loves receiving mail from me so I am really hoping that I can achieve this goal this year.

In order to make this goal easier to achieve, create a stationary box for yourself. You could use a photo box as they are a good size and pretty... more

You probably can’t read the words in that letter, but that is what I call my “love letter” to Charlie that I wrote when he was only a few days old, now hanging framed in his room.

Before Charlie was born, A (Charlie’s adoptive Mom) suggested that I write a letter to Charlie explaining why I had chosen adoption for him. It sounded like a daunting task but one that I knew I must and needed to do. Just two or three days after I had come home from the hospital, I sat down to write the letter. It was not easy, but I tried to just let the words come from the heart and flow instead... more

Many birthmothers, even those in open adoptions, write letters to their placed child. Some birthmothers find it healing and therapeutic. There’s really no right or wrong way to writing a letter to your child! Some birthmothers may write at the same time each month, such as the date their child was born while others may write only when and if they feel the need. Some may write on special occasions, such as birthdays and holidays. Some birthmothers may send the letter to their child right... more