Father’s Day is fast approaching. It has kind of taken me by surprise this year! I was thinking it was still a week or two away!! Oops!

Do you have any plans to honor the dads in your life? That includes the birth dads! I think that Birthdads get left out of the loop sometimes but they (the ones involved) deserve recognition on Father’s Day just as we (birthmothers) do on Mother’s Day.

So this weekend, why not try treating the Dads in your life to a delicious, yummy frosty from Wendy’s. During Father’s Day Weekend, (June 16th... more

Looking at the many tributes to the fallen soldiers both past and present this Memorial day holiday, I ran across a little poem by Amanda Bradley that I wanted to share. Her words not only eloquently spoke of those we honor today, but it also seemed to speak to me of all the hopes that I hold for the adoption community.

For all the conflict we often find dividing us, we still need to reach out to one another for empathy and understanding. Because the experiences... more

I needed a day to recuperate from the events of the weekend, but now I am ready to share them with you!

In short, our event for birthmothers this weekend was just amazing. Each year they seem to get better. We ended up with a group of about twenty five amazing women. We had young women and old women. We had women who were birthmothers to babies and women who were birthmothers to adults. We had birthmothers who had open, semi open, and closed adoptions.

We always begin our day with introductions and give the ladies a moment to tell everyone a little... more

I remember my first Mother’s Day. I thought it never would happen, after all I tried to have a child for some seven years before my daughter found me. That first mom holiday she was just a month old, so very precious and tiny, and so unaware of how her life was already forever altered by adoption. As it turns out I had a ton to learn myself.

That first Mother’s Day as I sat, holding her, I could hardly take my eyes off her, she was (and is) so beautiful. That moment in my life was one of the most happy. That is also when I just lost it in a wave of unexpected... more

Many are finding the coming Mother’s Day holiday as a looming symbol of the questionable feelings about the losses they have experienced as moms. Hardly what the purpose makers of the hearts and flowers holiday had in mind, but valid feelings non the less.

Be it loss through infertility,... more

In the past few days, I’ve written a lot about how I do choose to acknowledge my birthmotherhood by joining with other birthmother’s for a Birthmother’s Day event. But that doesn’t mean that I don’t hurt on Mother’s Day or grieve the loss of my motherhood to Charlie; because I do. Unlike birthmothers who are first time Mothers are I have celebrated Mother’s Days in the past, but even though I am with Noah on Mother’s Day, there is still a piece of my heart that misses mothering Charlie more... more

In my last post, I talked about why adoptive parents should acknowledge their child’s birthmother on Birthmother’s Day/Mother’s Day. Today I will share the story of a family who did just that.

Krissy is a friend and fellow birthmom. She placed her daughter, Rylee, in an open adoption five years ago. Last year, on the Saturday before Mother’s Day recognized by some in the adoption community, Rylee and her adoptive family planned a special surprise for Krissy.

Krissy was at her home where... more

Recently an adoptive mother asked if she should do anything for her child’s birthmother for the upcoming Mother’s Day weekend and if so, which day, Birthmother’s Day or Mother’s Day?

I definitely think any adoptive mother partaking in an open adoption should try and acknowledge her child’s birthmother for Mother’s Day. Why? Because she is important to your child! She is your child’s first mother and she (in most cases) lovingly made a decision to place her child for adoption because for whatever reason she could not care for the child at that... more

In my last post, I talked about Birthmother’s Day events in general, but in this post, I thought I’d share what goes on at the events we coordinate and host each year.

Birthmom Buds has hosted an event for the past three years. I enjoy planning these events and creating a special day with and for fellow birthmothers. I’m exhausted by the time Birthmom’s Day is over with all the work involved, but it is a good kind of exhaustion. We have... more

In my last post, I explained what Birthmother’s Day is all about and I mentioned that events, receptions, and banquets are beginning to pop up all across the country as Birthmother’s Day becomes more widespread and accepted in the adoption community.

Birthmother’s Day events vary and there is really no wrong or right to a Birthmother’s Day event. Most of the time they are hosted by adoption agencies, adoption or birthmother support groups, and occasionally crisis pregnancy centers.... more