I must admit that sometimes I am envious of some of the birthmoms I am friends with that receive tons of photos and sentimental things or gifts from their children’s adoptive parents. Not that I am greedy or materialistic, but I just need reassurance every now and then that I am thought of and appreciated.

Charlie’s adoptive Mom, A, is not one of those sentimental, “mushy” types – like me – so when she gives me something sentimental, it means that much more to me because it is a rarity.

When I saw Charlie and his family last week, A had some things for me... more

My faith in God plays a big role in my life so it’s not surprising that it factors into the adoption plan I made.

For years, I wasn’t as close to God as I should have been or as I am now. I then considered myself to be more spiritual than religious meaning that I did believe in God but I wasn’t always faithful in going to him in prayer, attending church, or putting him first in my life.

I’ve often heard many people say that it was all part of God’s plan in retrospect to events that occurred in their life. I’ve heard some say this in reference to their own adoption plans... more

I’ve talked before about my love of music and how I can hear certain songs and just connect with the lyrics for one reason or another. The Rascal Flatts song, What Hurts the Most, is no different. It reminds me of how I sometimes feel as a birthmother. I’m going to share certain parts of the lyrics and explain why they make me feel the way... more

Well my visitors of the last three and a half weeks have left us today. I really enjoyed having my nieces stay with us, they will be missed by everyone here. My girls enjoyed playing with their older, “cool” cousins, and my little son enjoyed the extra pampering he received. We really all wanted to keep R and K forever. The sad detail in this visit, is that it was just one of many similar sad goodbyes over the years for us, and it made me again wonder why it has to happen.

The girls started coming to us as babies, being raised by a mother who... more

Today while driving a new (or at least it’s new to me) song came on the radio and caught my attention. The song is titled Tough and it’s sung by Craig Morgan, a country music singer. I immediately fell in love with it.

The song talks about a woman who is described as being tough. In the first verse we learn that the woman juggles her children, her husband, and still does all the every day things. She’s described as tough for appearing to handle it with grace and ease. In the second verse, the woman is diagnosed... more

Looking at the many tributes to the fallen soldiers both past and present this Memorial day holiday, I ran across a little poem by Amanda Bradley that I wanted to share. Her words not only eloquently spoke of those we honor today, but it also seemed to speak to me of all the hopes that I hold for the adoption community.

For all the conflict we often find dividing us, we still need to reach out to one another for empathy and understanding. Because the experiences... more

At our Birthmother’s events, we always have a candlelight ceremony. I originally thought this idea was a little weird. I thought that candlelight ceremonies were typically held as vigils for children or people who were missing or dead and since I knew exactly where my son was the idea of a candle light ceremony to me was a little off.

But after some research and thinking, I came around to the idea. In my research I found that candle light ceremonies originally began to honor men as they came home from the war. Candle light ceremonies have come to represent... more

As a Christian and a child of God, there are certain Bible verses that speak to me for different reasons. Some speak to me more than others at certain times of my life depending on what I am going through at that time in my life. Certain Bible verses have been favorites for a long time, while others may be favorites periodically depending on what I am going through at that time in my life.

It’s comforting to me to be able to turn to my Bible during times of need and find comforting words. I must admit that I was in so much pain during the first few days and... more

Have you ever wished for just one more day with your child? Have you ever wished for just one more kiss? One more touch? One more hour? One more moment?

The song, “One More Day,” by Diamond Rio describes my feelings and the feelings of many other birthmothers precisely.

First thing I'd do, is pray for time to crawl Then I'd unplug the telephone And keep the TV off I'd hold you every second Say a million I love you's That’s... more

Quite a few blogs have discussed the Disney kids film Meet The Robinson’s recently, and with mixed reviews on its central adoption related theme. I took my three children and we all throughly enjoyed the film, including my 10 year old with whom the adoption message was well received.

One of the most touching things for me was the song, “Little Wonders” by former Matchbox... more